My flatmate Bonnie and I are both single at the moment and she’s been out and about meeting new people. 2 weeks ago she met Paul-James (his real name is Paul but I think he looks like a James so therefore he is christened Paul-James or even PJ for short) through Facebook and then in person at his work.

Seriously she met him through Facebook – he was in the ‘other folder’ in the private message mailbox.

Anyways I don’t think much of PJ but I’m not dating him. However when I asked Bonnie how she felt about hi she said, “oh, he’s nice. I wasn’t instantly like ‘I wanna rip your clothes off’ but he’s so nice.” I looked at her and said, “You know what’s nice? Biscuits are nice. Do you want to fuck biscuits? No. Unless you have a biscuit fetish or something. Or do you want some passion?”

“…..Biscuits are nice. Do you want to fuck biscuits?”

Now I’m not saying don’t date/fall in love/ sleep with the nice guy. You should probably do that – after all he’s a good guy and will most likely do good by you. I am saying don’t settle for some guy because he best thing going for him is He’s so nice. You both deserve better than that x

I’ve dated my share of guys who are soooo nice and I’m not proud to admit I’ve settled and stayed with partners because I know I have it good with them. That chemistry/lust/moth to a flame attraction might be missing but these men have been so nice I wanted to see if I could fall in love with them anyways. I’ve been told how much of a “nice” girl I am and I’m sure some men have dated me because of this…. For the record I don’t want you to want to be with me because I’m so nice and I fit your checklist. I want to be with you because you think that I’m awesome and I feel the same way about you!

What do you think? Do you need to have that chemistry with your partner or this not that important… What’s underneath counts more?