The travel life & Adventures of me; Brooke. 30 something. Loves to Travel ✈️. Drink scotch. Eat good food. Workout.



I got it from my mama!!!

A few weeks ago after more than a few wines on a girls weekend away I signed back up to online dating. I chose to return to my old stomping ground of POF and Tinder.

I’ll be honest I didn’t feel ready to go back out there. I felt like I was dipping my toe in. I didn’t want to commit 100%. I was terrified of what might happen.

I’ll say this… it’s tough out on these streets. So far I’ve fallen back into a rabbit hole of “Hi Sexy”, “where do you live” (code for: how far away are you so I can come over for sex), “hey”, “when you free”, and my personal favourite, “hi beautiful, how’s your evening. What are you up to?”, usually sent on a Saturday evening around 10pm. More than once I’ve been tempted to respond with, “oh nothing, just lying here in my silk negligee, waiting for a handsome man to come ravish me…”, AKA all breathy Southern Belle like. But I suspect my sarcasm would be wasted on them. It’s the same old fuckboys looking to get lucky with minimal effort.

Now before we get all grumpy I’m not lumping all the men into this category. Some are lovely. Some want to get to know me. They’re interested in me. They’ve read my profile, rather than looked at just my pics only. I’ve even been asked on my first date…. though that’s a story for another time.

A funny thing has happened to me since my breakup. Because I’ve been lucky enough to have experienced real love; I’ve become picky. My standards are higher. I expect more and when someone tries to over sexualise I ignore them or delete them.

Of course I still have my moments of weakness. Case in point: early 30s guy contacts me. After some small talk he offers me a massage. I think to myself… he’s cute, why not? I’m a woman in her 30s who can do whatever and, whoever I want. However, I ignore his offer to swap numbers as I’m not too sure. A week passes and he reaches out to me again. I give him my mobile. The conversation continues. He offers a massage and I say yes. Then he says I’ll bring the prosecco & I realise he means to come to my house. I falter. Then I think, “why not, it’ll be fun”. But I’m still thinking it over. So I eventually text him to tell him I’d rather meet him in a bar for a drink then we’ll see what comes of this…. it’s not a hard no, it’s a maybe, for now.

He comes back with: I don’t want to take you out. I’d rather wine & dine you at home.

I’m not impressed. But I appreciate the honesty so I tell him simply it’s not my thing.

He then responds with a series of passive aggressive messages telling me not to lead people on, he thought I was looking for something casual, and in future I should be clear to say what I’m after.


I mean seriously? My profile outlines I’m looking for a relationship. Also, I’m allowed to change my mind. His response tells me I dodged a bullet. That he would’ve been in my house throwing a tantrum if I decided to not let him “‘massage me”. As for “leading people on”… this is a red flag to me. If this is his honest opinion then I’m pretty sure I know why he’s single.

Thank goodness for my mum. She’s always instilled a strong sense of self worth into my sister and I. She tells us to never settle. She wouldn’t put up with this BS and nor will I.

Who else is online dating at the moment? Any stories to tell? Good or bad I wanna hear them. What about those of you who aren’t dating… best date you’ve ever been on???


Same Love

Love is LoveHeya blogmates! For my US readers you’ve probably not heard about how the Australian Government is currently running a Same Sex Marriage (SSM) postal vote to determine the public’s opinion as to if we believe it’s a good idea to change the law to allow same sex couples to marry.

I wasn’t going to get involved in this matter. Aside from my vote I didn’t really want to step in and share my thoughts. I don’t have very strong political views; to be honest my attitude is that all politicians are kinda a-holes. My opinion of the whole SSM postal vote is that it is a total waste time and money for the following reasons:

  1. The postal vote isn’t actually compulsory (unlike local, state and federal elections where voting is a requirement for all registered voters over 18 years);
  2. The results aren’t enforceable. If the result is a resounding YES (I hope it is) the law won’t be automatically change. The current Prime Minister in power has made it very clear he isn’t supportive of SSM, so I’m sure he’ll be opposing any changes to the law.
  3. It’s costing tax payers approx. $122 million dollars to find out the results. Money that could be spent elsewhere.

Let me be clear, I 110% support SSM, it’s just the law, a simple change. Marriage has very little to do with religion; it’s a legally binding contract between a man and woman. An update to the law will change this to a legally binding contract between two people.

I support SSM for the following reasons:

  1. It’s equality. Gay couples are classed as De Facto couples and have to be taxes as a couple; however they don’t get the same rights as straight couples to stand up in front of their loved ones to declare their desire to marry the other.
  2. Legal rights. Spouses have a lot of rights that a de facto partner doesn’t. The right to be with their spouse during medical treatments is one that is so very important. Not to mention rights concerning property jointly owned by a gay couple.
  3. Supporting the community. When I was old enough to know what I like; I knew I liked boys. I knew one day I would have the chance to get married and have children (if I met the right man of course). I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be when you realise you like the same sex or both sexes. All of a sudden the idea of marriage and kids seems unlikely. For young people who are at their most vulnerable this idea may be soo overwhelming they become depressed or even harm themselves. If the YES vote helps save 1 person from this then I’m totally onboard.

So far the survey has managed to show the ugliness of society. I’ve read disgusting comments criticising the LGBTIQ community and encouraging violence. I’ve seen the NO campaign pay for advertising over prime time advising people it’s ok to say NO and linking SSM to the Safe Schools Program (which isn’t the case at all). I’ve read about a Yes campaign person head butting a former politician. I’ve heard of families being torn apart by their decisions. I’ve been surprised by close friends with their decision to vote NO. I’ve had gay friends advise they are feeling so anxious, depressed and not coping with what they’ve experienced during the voting period.

What we need is less a waste of money survey and more compassion and understanding. A little empathy for a community that has always been marginalised. A community that has suffered violence, prejudice, and former laws that sought to stamp out their choices. You may not be comfortable with the LGBTIQ community (it’s your loss if you are) but they deserve the same basic rights as everyone else. Love is Love.

The words of my favourite rapper (I’m even tempted to watch the Australian Rugby League Grand Final this weekend to see him perform) Mackelmore sum it up perfectly…

A little crush

So a man came to my house to drop off wine for me. Free wine. Wine he’d saved to give me because I mentioned in passing I like wine. He’s cute but I have no idea if he’s into me or just friendly. I’m sure it’ll all work out … either a little crush that will become a good friend, or something more.

How did I greet him? Like a virginal teenager who isn’t allowed to have boys in the house. We chatted for 30 mins outside my house … I didn’t invite him in. Ugh! I am so not ready to date!

What do you think???

Ps. Did I mention he’s Scottish? With an accent!

14 months

It's been 14 months since I last posted… I'm so sorry. So much has happened. There's been love, laughter, tears, dancing, 4 holidays (more on those later), three house moves, one job redundancy, one new job, one crashed car, one new car, one heartbreak, and one heart slowly healing.
In the immortal words of Game of Thrones, "…let's begin, shall we…"

Saturday Fun

Something silly & light for Saturday. Look at the images above which one (s) are you most drawn too?? Here’s what they mean…. (FYI I found this online so it’s no Myers-Briggs ok, don’t stress if you get a personality that isn’t you):

Personality Test Results:

1. Freedom loving
Freedom is important to you – nothing is worse than when you feel tied down. You may find you move jobs or location frequently because the idea of staying in one place too long unnerves you. The same can apply to relationships! People see you as fun loving, and you are. You attempt to enjoy life to the full, in accordance with the motto: “You only live once.” You tend to attract less energetic people as friends or partners, like moths to a flame, they see you as the light. Careful they don’t drain you! You are very curious and open about everything new and thrive on change. Quite simply, you are a breath of fresh air.

2. Independent and unconventional
Your lifestyle is highly individualistic. You do not follow the crowd, on the contrary, you seek to live according to your own ideas and convictions, even if this means swimming against the tide. You need a free and unattached life that allows you to determine your own course. You have an artistic bent in your work or leisure activities. Your urge for freedom sometimes causes you to do exactly the opposite of what is expected of you. You are rather unique, so don’t bother comparing yourself to anyone else. Live life your way.

3. Sensitive and reflective
You are comfortable spending hours alone with your thoughts and rarely become bored. You dislike superficiality; you’d rather be alone than have to suffer through small talk. Your relationships with your friends are very strong, which gives you the inner tranquillity and harmony that you require. You love deeply but if someone betrays you it is next to impossible to forgive. You are an old soul, someone who has lived many times before and has seen it all. All you crave now is simplicity and the chance to focus your attention on a meaningful existence.

4. Down to earth and charming
You have a natural authentic charm, what you see is what you get. People admire you because you seem so ‘together’. You have both feet planted firmly on the ground and they can depend on you. While others complicate their life with ifs and buts, you know your own mind. You provide security and space to those close to you. You are a rock, and although others may not tell you, you are the sun around which they revolve. You dislike superficiality and tend to be skeptical toward the whims of trends. Where others crash and burn, you motor on, quietly achieving all you need to do. You are a woman (or man) of substance.

5. Professional and self-assured
You take charge of your life, and place less faith in your luck and more in your own actions. You solve problems in a practical, uncomplicated manner. You take a realistic view of things in your daily life and tackle them without fuss. You are given responsibility at work, because people know that you can be depended upon. You project self-assurance to others. You are a born leader and organiser. Although you work well in a team, ideally you should be the one giving the orders. After all, you are usually right!

6. Peaceful and timeless
You are easy-going yet discreet. There is a timeless elegance about you (think Audrey Hepburn). You make friends effortlessly, yet enjoy your privacy and independence. You like to get away from it all and be alone from time to time to contemplate the meaning of life. You need space, so you escape to hideaways, but you are not a loner. You are at peace with yourself and the world, and you appreciate life and what this world has to offer. You have a strong life purpose and when you discover it, you project your personal brand of magic on the world.

7. Cultured and classical
Cultured and sophisticated you value the things money can’t necessarily buy – good conversation, original ideas, music and the arts. You have a fair mind and can see both sides of an argument. You rarely let emotions get the better of you, preferring to assess situations rationally. Calm, logical and yet compassionate and kind. You have ‘old-fashioned’ principles, which at heart make you a real lady (or gentleman). A timeless, vintage classic – the sort of person everyone secretly admires and likes to copy.

8. Sensitive and spiritual
You are a highly sensitive and spiritual person. You refuse to see life only from a rational view point. You have great intuition and trust your feelings. You must have dreams to aspire towards or you won’t feel happy. You like to improve yourself, and in so doing make a difference in the world – even if only in little ways. You find it hard to understand people who are only guided rationality. You form true relationships with open souls, people who know there is more to life than we can touch, see or hear. Your psychic sense is highly evolved, trust it and work with it.

9. Dynamic and sparkly
You are a mover and a shaker! You are willing to take risks in return for interesting and varied work. Routine tends to have a paralysing effect on you. Being stuck behind a desk 9-5 would destroy your soul and enthusiasm for life. You need to be given the chance to express your ideas and put them into action. You have a rainbow personality, and can cheer others up, even on the gloomiest of days. If you ever feel you have lost your sparkle it is because the situation you find yourself in is not right for you. Follow your enthusiasm, even if it means you chop and change for years. The journey is as important as the destination.

For the record I loved #1, #8 & #9 and I think they capture me very well!

I do love a good sale

The happiest thing to hit my inbox today (aside from all the lovely likes and comments from you blog-mates) was the announcement that Country Road are having a SALE! Remember those amazing pants I posted the other day? Well I can get a discount on them – I figure this is the universe’s way of telling me, “Life is short…Buy the damn pants”. Plus I’ve noticed a few other items I may just add to my cart…I can hardly wait until tomorrow to start the plunder!

9 Ways To Use The Silver Bullet

I don’t know about you but this made my Monday seem so much happier…I have a feeling I’ll be picking one of these up soon! For more info on awesome sex toy goodies make sure you follow

Happy thoughts


“If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely”, Roald Dahl.

4 things that make me smile (from top left clockwise)….
1. My standing for the crossfit open… Hey look I’m in the top 70,000 worldwide. Yep I’m going places ha ha!
2. Beautiful flowers that my darling best friend R surprised me at work with. It really brightened my day :-).
3. I finally got myself motivated enough to get to the box today & hit a PB with push press …35 kg at 1 rep! The WOD was nice and sweaty too.
4. I made a cheesecake last night! This makes me smile the most… I like to bake and make desserts ( R calls me the dessert queen/Martha Stewart) I haven’t felt the urge to in a looong time (almost a yr). These were the tools for the white choc/honeycomb cheesecake I’ve made for dessert after dinner/football game watching tonight! Yep I have a date with Manly Matt & this makes me very happy indeed.

Happy Thursday Y’all!!

It’s only a diary – Bridget Jones I love you!

This post comes as I begin to share my blog with friends and family….If you think a post is about you, it most likely is. After all this is a blog/online diary about my life/thoughts/events etc etc. But I want you to remember one thing…

” After all, it’s only a diary. Everyone knows diaries are just… full of crap” …. Thank you Bridget Jones!

We’ve all got dreams

We’ve all got dreams/hopes/ goals for 2014. I don’t really believe in setting New Years resolutions but I do like to set some goals & remind myself about the bigger picture stuff too. I normally create a couple of A3 posters and put them in my room & bathroom to try and keep me focused….I don’t have a pic of this years poster but I’ve got an update on a few goals to date:

Get to gym 4-5 times a week.
Reality: I have at least gone 1-2 times a week & more importantly have brought new gym gear so when I go I’ll be looking stylish. But buying the new gear/clothes kinda defeats the next goal…
Save money, spend less. You don’t need new clothes.
Reality: did I really write this? Apart from a few gym essentials , some new dresses, a lovely bottle of single malt 12 yr old scotch & a pair of shoes I’m yet to buy (I’ll grab them today) I’ve been really good ha! I love shopping & if there was an Olympic sport for shopping I’d probably get a medal. Maybe this is a goal I can achieve if I become Amish… But I suspect even then I’d be like, “Oohhh are those bonnets on sale? I really must grab a new one or two…. Just in case”.

To be continued….

Who do you recommend

Since Christmas I’ve noticed my waistline has been spreading…I have tried to convince myself that it’s because I’ve had a sore foot, have missed sessions at the crossfit box, my deep love of twisties and chocolate, my equal passion for wine and scotch, not walking the dog enough…The list goes on. Basically I’ve put on weight and now it’s become a workout to put on work pants in the morning. Therefore I need to sort out my shit with my food and exercise as it’s a slippery slope back to where I came from if I’m not careful and I wasn’t happy there….Hence I’m seeking some recommendations on weight loss plans.
I’m seriously considering getting back into weight watchers as this worked all those years ago and most importantly I love their system of you preparing your own food. What do you think? Any recommendations?

PS. I hate the words weight loss but lean down doesn’t sound the same. Essentially I want to lean down and get fitter stronger as I don’t really care what the scales say, I care how I look with and without clothes on and how I train at the box.

Happy Valentines Day


It might be 24 hrs too late (for those my side of the equator) but Happy Valentines Day. I hope your day was touched with love & kindness!

I’m working in NZ on a sales mission until Monday and as I’m still ‘just dating’ Manly Matt I didn’t expect anything or even an acknowledgement of the day. I did get a sweet Facebook message and a plan to catch up on Wednesday night.

The dating thing is new to me & there are times I struggle with it. But I’m teaching myself to relax and enjoy this time. This article really resonated with me:

dating tips
Dating is awkward, terrifying, and a lot of fun. It’s been lovely to have met someone who is keen to take me out places. Manly Matt has impeccable manners, always pays & is a good kisser. I’m really enjoying getting to know him xox.

All you need is wine, wine is all you need...

As you may be able to tell today has been super productive at work (not)! I saw this and I laughed, a lot! I needed it after spending a lot of time following the Lisa Harnum case.

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